May 24, 2013
School is out for the summer! I'm am SO excited to have these little monkeys home with me!
And yes, I really am.
Of course, it will be interesting and perhaps difficult since I'll be pregnant and all.
But you know what?
Since today was the last (half) day, the school held an awards ceremony in which they passed out trophies and prizes to students who: achieved the highest scores in different subjects, were voted "nicest, kindest" by their classmates, kids who showed the most improvement, a teacher's choice award, etc.
My children got to stand up for the "faithful attendance" recognition for not missing more than two days of school, but that was it.
When it was over, I made a quick break of the door since Claira suddenly turned into a screaming banshee.
As I was heading for the door, I passed Savannah as her class was heading back to their room. She looked like she was on the verge of tears.
I knew exactly why she was upset.
Like anyone would be (but especially for her), she was bummed that she didn't receive an award.
I wish I had had a moment to talk to her, but since she was headed back to class and I had a screaming toddler literally flung over my shoulder, there was no time. I quickly told her everything would be okay and that I was proud of her.
I wanted to explain to her that she should not only be proud of her achievements (like getting straight A's and always scoring far above average on her tests) but also learn to be happy for those who did receive an award. And believe me, I know that's not always easy.
I couldn't help but think of this:
And I loved this on helping children overcome disappointment and setbacks that are a natural part of life:
..."As children become resilient, they understand and accept these two facts. They see life as challenging and ever changing, but they believe they can cope with those challenges and changes. They view mistakes and weaknesses as opportunities to learn, and they accept that losing may precede winning.
As children develop resilience, they believe they can influence and even control outcomes in their lives through effort, imagination, knowledge, and skill. With this attitude, they focus on what they do rather than on what is outside their control."
-LYLE J. BURRUP
(Read the whole article HERE)
By the time Savannah and Joseph came home, she was happy as can be, having already moved past her initial disappointment.
And I'm also proud of her for that.
She is by nature, competitive and doesn't like to lose or be last. But these small experiences will help her learn to accept, to try harder, and most of all, to be happy for other's achievements.
We won't always be first, or the best, or the smartest. But we can control our attitude and acceptance of these things and decide how we will respond.
That is character.